tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post6469743555556033251..comments2024-03-05T03:25:58.318-08:00Comments on The Silence of Domestic Violence: The affect of witnessing DV on a child.Ianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01500680552817693199noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-49032914632134904442023-03-31T17:24:54.014-07:002023-03-31T17:24:54.014-07:00Thank you so much for this. I did try to find your...Thank you so much for this. I did try to find your daughter's blog, but the page doesn't seem to work (maybe she no longer writes it, or maybe it's because I have age restriction on my wifi that even restricts what I see haha)<br />I don't think there are enough voices of the children who experience domestic abuse and violence, especially when it comes from their mothers. It would be very helpful if there were more survivors of maternal abuse writing material like this because it's incredibly hard to talk about and it would really help others in that situation realise they are suffering abuse. <br /><br />I remember when I finally realised that my mother had emotionally and physically abused me throughout my whole childhood, and beyond. She emotionally abused my dad too, but I don't know if she perpetrated any violence against him.<br /><br />Her manipulative controlling behaviour set me up for an abusive marriage. It took me many years to realise I had basically married another version of my mother!<br /><br />My stepkids are currently embroiled in a similar situation to that which your daughter describes, having to spend most of their time with their abusive mother and I have no idea how to help, apart from making their visits here a time where they experience normality, where there's no shouting or violence from the adults caring for them- which is, thankfully, easy. I have no idea what goes on in their mother's home, because they don't talk about it. All I know is that they are not okay, but don't feel able to talk about it for fear of betraying their mum. I don't know how to bring up the subject because I don't want to make them feel bad, or to make their situation worse, because one thing I do know is that when their mother is challenged on her behaviour, she makes her kids pay the price, by keeping them away from their dad. I do know that their mother has told them a lot of lies about their dad and myself, but again, I don't know how to put this right or how to help them.<br /><br />All I can do is just be there for them.<br /><br />It's your turn to cook...https://www.blogger.com/profile/07412054091547904140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-32915132735411247962021-01-31T22:37:12.775-08:002021-01-31T22:37:12.775-08:00Thanks for taking the time to share these informat...Thanks for taking the time to share these informative information with us. It was such a good and well written article that you provided to us. 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Time consuming trips to the courthouse, aggressive prosecutors, community service and lengthy <a rel="nofollow"> domestic violence</a> counseling classes are just a taste of what a domestic violence defendant will face. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07564939046405375986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-2930764872837499602017-04-05T01:29:32.067-07:002017-04-05T01:29:32.067-07:00Salute to your daughter and her very positive thou...Salute to your daughter and her very positive thoughts. <a href="http://terrimiles.com" rel="nofollow">Domestic violence</a> should be punishable. No one is allowed to abuse anyone either son is abusing step mother or husband abusing his wife. It is totally wrong.<br />alexjoe025https://www.blogger.com/profile/07718535948670665776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-27413400631250596572016-02-01T23:42:40.103-08:002016-02-01T23:42:40.103-08:00What a Cool blog and great shared to domestic viol...What a Cool blog and great shared to domestic violence ! Thanks author for your awesome tropic and valuable information. Really Looking forward to read your Upcoming Post ! <a href="https://plus.google.com/114772024043351182963/about?hl=enFremont" rel="nofollow">Fremont domestic violence</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02451075965628159201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-52320020813614445322016-01-08T08:37:18.543-08:002016-01-08T08:37:18.543-08:00there is a lot on abuse/violence on this site,sugg...there is a lot on abuse/violence on this site,suggesting a strong link to personality disorders.<br />I've been trying to point this out for years,but it falls on deaf ears.My mother was a severe BPD,I had 4 doctors tell me to break all contact with her,none tell me why or offer support.(my aunt was also schizoid) No other family.<br />I had to find out what was wrong using the internet,then one of the doctors agreed that is what they also believed.<br />Problem is while known about,it was only researched starting in the 1980's so research is poor.The professionals used to say"ingrained maladaptive behaviours,which have been learned.Therefore can be unlearned." what a load off bunkum<br />Their is research now which suggest it is nature/nurture and may in some cases be hereditary.<br />Sites dealing with,suicide,abuse/violence,alcoholism,drug addiction,prisoners and relationship problems,do not seem to be aware of this!<br />If a doctor suspects that a personality disorder is present,they generally do nothing.This is because there is nowhere to send someone and if there is a facility,they seem to make people worse.<br />Stats tellus 10% of the adult population and most will also suffer from phobia's or addictions.60%-80% of the prison population.<br />Personality disorders are generally underdiagnosed and mental illness over diagnosed. <br /><br /> High Functioning Borderline Personality Disorder<br /><br />Written by Valerie Porr, Founder, Treatment and Research Advancements Association for Personality Disorder.<br /><br />Despite their extreme sensitivity and the severe emotional pain they live with, people with Borderline Personality Disorder seem to others to manifest irritating behavior rather than signs or symptoms associated with other mental illnesses. <br /><br />Generally high functioning, it is not unusual for a person with BPD to graduate from college or become a doctor or lawyer. Princess Diana and Marilyn Monroe were reputed to have suffered with Borderline Personality Disorder. They had the ability to "be apparently competent" that often leads loved ones and professionals to trivialize their profound suffering and to deny the appropriate recognition or care required by this painful and persistent illness.<br /><br />THE GENERAL PUBLIC AND AGENCIES MENTIONED ABOVE NEED TO BE EDUCATED TO THESE FACTS<br /><br />Research is now suggesting help is possible with the right treatment. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5711514529946834564.post-45940045757538896442015-12-22T10:36:21.767-08:002015-12-22T10:36:21.767-08:00Please thank your daughter for posting this. I un...Please thank your daughter for posting this. I understand it both as a man who was abused by his wife and as a boy who was abused by his step-mother. Yes, writing can help. Yes, God can help too. Both have been part of my healing process. Accept that it will take time. 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